I Almost Divorced my Husband, but I Went on Strike Instead
I left the mess that the half-finished supper had splattered all over the kitchen and stated firmly, “Not only am I not going to the store, but as of this very second I am officially on strike.”
To show what a good wife she was, Sherri Mills eagerly took over all household and child rearing duties at the beginning of her marriage. Years later, exhausted and angry from doing every chore in an increasingly complex family life, she’d had enough.
However, after styling hair in her salon for nearly 20 years and conducting more impromptu therapy sessions than most psychologists, Sherri knew divorce was not the solution she was looking for. Fighting to save her marriage, she did the only thing her husband would understand—she went on a domestic strike, complete with a homemade, union-style contract.
And it worked! Now Sherri is out to share with others what brought back her greatest joy. Inside you’ll find stories from women who have gone through it all and tips to rediscover your own loving marriage. Sherri’s candid confessions of going from picket fences to picket signs will have you laughing your way to a permanent, equitable division of labor and domestic bliss.
From the Author: (I Almost Divorced my Husband, but I Went on Strike Instead) tells the true story of the ten years I suffered the doing-it-all syndrome as a full time wife, mother and breadwinner. I tried so many schemes, but none of them made an impression on this relaxed, carefree male chauvinist who – without being aware of it – I had inadvertently helped to create. To avoid divorce, I went on a domestic strike against my husband and children. The two week strike was the hardest thing I have ever done but it changed my life ‘to this day’. The Salt Lake Tribune featured us on the front page of their ‘family’ section and local women told me their husband’s were helping just because my strike was in the public eye. This is a 45,000 word self-help book with an attitude and very friendly to the men in our lives.
It teaches specific strategies and techniques for changing the situation from that of ‘help’ to ‘shared responsibility’. It motivates readers to come to the realization that as hard as it would be to face the prospect of going through the unfamiliar territory of change, divorce is much more painful, to everyone including the children, and states specifically the statistics on the cost of divorce, financially and emotionally.
It provokes thoughtful insight into the reality of the fact that we all assume house-holder work belongs to women from the outset, that even educated and modern women believe this. The idea is embedded in our culture and in order to change the dynamics we have to realize this.
I have had over 45 years’ experience as what Dr. Lewis E. Losoncy calls a Psy-Cosmetologist and was a guest speaker at the College of Eastern Utah numerous times, teaching other hairdressers how to interact with their clients and how to keep a confidence. In my salon I have had one-on-one sessions with my clients over periods of years and lifetimes with three generations of families. I have seen successes, failures and some successes that eventually turn into nightmares. Working with people is my passion and my clients all become my extended family. Regularly over the years, clients upon leaving my salon, sometimes in tears would say, “okay now what do I owe you for my counseling session?”
The excruciating pain I witnessed from divorces that didn’t have to happen is ultimately what compelled me to write this book. I spent an enormous amount of time researching in other areas, what I found to be true in this small area and I couldn’t let it go.
Books on the disparity between husbands and wives fill the book shelves. Most of them suggest ways to get husbands to help. While others come with a little information and chore lists, several focus on how men just don’t know what to do to help. However there is no other resource besides my book that covers all of the above and specifically pulls together information that answers the questions; How did we get to this place, Why is it so difficult to get husbands to pull their weight, and is it possible we have been doing it all wrong by blaming our men? Answers to these and more questions are detailed in the body of the book as are countless tips on keeping ones marriage together for the sake of the children.
Self-help books usually have good information but at times are boring to read. The reader is in for a treat because ‘I Almost Divorced My Husband,’ contains countless, funny, interesting true stories to press a point, (I have gone to great strides to make certain everyone’s identities are completely hidden.)